Monday, April 20, 2015

Mommy Mondays: Props to the Single Mom

I am wrapping up my very long 2 1/2 weeks as a single mom today. 
Being a military wife we have constant "single mom"days, weeks, and months at a time. 
With one kid I had a small taste, a tiny little glimpse of what it is like to be a single mom. But this was the first time alone with two kids.
Let's be real folk! No one is perfect and there are no perfect moms. I don't like the different stereotypes there out there. Or the constant mom judging that goes on on a regular basis. I know we've all been judged and I know we've all done some judging. But one thing I learned this time around. That infamous phrase that has been passed down through generations is so true. "Don't judge a person until you've walked a mile in there shoes."

....And let me tell you my feet are tired!!! I am so burned out this time around that I can't even imagine how moms do it with more than two kids. 
If you don't know what it's like to be a stay at home mom or even a stay at home mom/blogger/entrepreneur/photographer/home-schooler or whatever your vice may be. Let me give you a glimpse into our world. 

It's not always good days. 
It's not always hair curled and makeup done.
It's not always well-behaved children.

In fact I'm not sure I curled my hair the whole time. I barely wore any makeup and most certainly did not always have well behaved children. I do not always have it all together. I'm sure I'm not the only one either. I know it can't completely come close to being like this but sometimes I compare being a stay at home mom/mom in general to being on deployment. It's quite often a war zone sometimes not near death of course but playing referee to kids all the time can be exhausting. But I think it's mainly the on edge feeling. Being a mom you can't really let yourself relax.You have to be ready at a moments notice to jump out of bed to tend to a crying baby or child. With a newborn you are afraid to fall asleep in case they stop breathing, roll on their stomach, pull a blanket over their face. You have to be ten-twelve steps ahead of your child. Constantly thinking of consequences and different scenarios of a child hurting themselves. A million and one things can happen when you turn away to take a drink or bite to eat. Even take a shower or go to the bathroom. You can't be selfish even in the tiny bit. I wake up every morning doing my children's bidding. Feeding them, cleaning up after them. Being pulled in a million different directions. When I said we live on edge...I mean on EDGE!!! 

I am so blessed beyond measures to have the husband that I do. He cooks dinner/breakfast, he does dishes, he changes diapers, he brings me chocolate when I'm literally going insane. I'm glad that I have him. But some do not have a team-mate to tag in on those crazy days. So this one goes out to all the single moms/parents. They meet each day being brave and fearless. They keep it together not only for themselves but for those babies. They continue on most of the time without getting any kind of break. I salute you Mom's!!

So do something nice for a single mom/parent out there today.
They most certainly need it!

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Home Decor: My Bedroom Tour

Being an Army wife I am pretty used to the moving around a lot.....Like a LOT!
With that you get to live in all kinds of different houses. Big, small, on base, or off base. I am constantly trying to fit and mold my style to fit the house. We've gone through a lot of different "looks". A lot of different kinds of furniture. I feel like this is the first house {even though its really cramped} has inspired me to embrace my true style. 
I think it's funny how I tend to get the house finished right before we love. I guess it's always a work in progress. Best advice I can give a military wife is make it a home as soon as you move in. We have lived in a house as short as 11 months and as long as 3 years. It really is crazy how much we move.
So I thought I would give you a tour of my bedroom as it is in our base house in Massachusetts. 

Funny story about our bed. Well we can laugh about it now but it wasn't so funny then. These old Cape Cod style houses are so tiny with a weird layout that really just drive me crazy. Our headboard is tall. I wouldn't think so outrageously tall but I've never lived in Massachusetts before. 
They couldn't fit it up the stairs! So I thought we would never be able to use our brand new bed frame and be forced to sleep on mattresses for three years. I called around to several places. Someone even suggested taking it through one of the windows. {ummm is that a New England thing?"
Luckily...and I mean seriously blessed here. My awesome friend Mike told us it was an easy fix and he could help the hubby take it a part and put it back together again. {That's easy?} It ended up working and we paid him in pizza and called it a day.

Now how to get it back out of here???

I knew we were moving soon so I didn't want to set up a nursery yet. So since there is literally NO SPACE in my room I made Caleb a little baby nook out of my closet. I wanted to go all out and decorate it but he came too early. So this had to do and it's worked out great. 

Thanks for stopping by.... 

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

{conversations with a six year old}

Riley: Aren't you glad I helped you find my stuff?

Daddy: You didn't help me

Riley: I told you where it was

Riley: Mommy! My voice camouflaged into the song......... {new song comes on} Mommy it camouflaged again.

Riley: Mommy how old do you have to be old?

Riley: I know why they call it IHOP because it's so good you jump up and down!

Riley: I feel different today.

Mommy: Like in a good way?

Riley: I feel older.......


Riley: You and mommy are just one thing. I'm four things.

Daddy: What's mommy's job

Riley: Mommy works for groceries and toys. Daddy works for money. 

Mommy: What do you do?

Riley: Read, curious, play and.....just sit around.

Daddy: I'm the boss. What does Mommy do?

Riley: Mommy sits with Caleb and watches tv all day.. {my kid ladies and gentleman... thanks a lot Riley!} 

Riley: I like fancy hotels

Mommy: What makes them fancy?

Riley: Carpet and dresses.

Mommy: I wish people would just pick up their dogs poop. I mean they don't let their kids poop outside and leave it for us to walk all over. 

Riley: Yeah they would freeze their butts!

Monday, April 13, 2015

Mommy Mondays: stop growing!

As I sit here still in my pjs with a sleeping babe and one off to school I pondered.......
So this is what life looks like as a mom of three? Two itty bittys and one angel baby. I still can't believe I've birthed three human beings. I don't feel old enough.. Ha I don't really feel young enough either. 
I'm in mommy limbo!

I am a week away from little man turning 4 months old. Where has the time gone? I'm still gathering my bearings here and I already have a 4 month old!! That's almost half a year and then what he turns  one!!?? 
When I sent my little lady off to kindergarten I was an emotional wreck. But now I have the blues! This is a real thing. The realization that time goes fast at a dramatic speed. And your once tiny little babies will be going to high school and getting married and driving cars before you even have the chance to blink. I have a hard time being in the moment with them. Because I'm trying sooo hard to cling to this age, this time in their little lives that will never happen again. I find myself staring {too long actually} trying to memorize every part of their little faces and little hands and little feet. 
Tell I'm not the only mom out there who does this? 

One thing they don't tell moms who bring home second baby. How instantly it makes your older child look like a giant. My sweet, precious little baby girl grew drastically overnight. I'm not even kidding her arms and legs were longer! Her hands were the size of human adult hands! She wasn't a baby anymore she's running around having grown up conversations with me. She's even reading to ME now!! I seriously want to cry! Time is seriously precious and is over  like that {snaps fingers}. No do overs, no pause and rewind buttons just one chance. 
I can't be bothered to waste time with silly things like cleaning, bathing or watching my shows. I have to spend every second just soaking up my time with them! Because I could never ever live without them! 

P.S I was kidding about the cleaning and bathing part. ;)

Thursday, March 26, 2015

{Conversations with a six-year old}

Mommy: Riley I'm so upset I pumped 3oz of milk and then I didn't close the bag right and it spilled on the counter and I lost an ounce so now I only have 2oz of milk.

Riley: Does that mean you have to squeeze more?

Mommy: Haha Yes!

Riley: Siri I have a new baby brother!

Siri: I bet you say that to all your apple products.

Riley: What's apple problems?

Mommy: Make sure you sit on the floor with your cup....I mean juice box.

Riley: You said cup, it's a juice box....CRAZZZYY MAMA

{Clipping baby's nails}

Mommy: That's my worst nightmare {cutting their little fingers}

Riley: But it's not a nightmare this is real life.

Riley: Mommy in minutemen did they have TV's and electronics?

Mommy: No

Riley: Then what were they fighting for?

Mommy: What is that?

Riley: Stickers from the store.

{pulls out blank price tag stickers out of pocket}

Mommy: You took that many? What are you a trash collector?

Riley: Just curious.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

7 by Jen Hatmaker: {Week 1: Food}

I recently started this new bible study with some awesome ladies on base. I even think this is my first bible study as an adult. That's crazy to think about. I originally loved the idea of getting rid of the excess. The book centers around fasting. I've done it before when I was younger. When you're young though it's really hard to grasp the whole idea of fasting and what it's really all about. For those who don't know what "fasting" is. Wikepedia states:

Fasting is primarily an act of willing abstinence or reduction from certain or all food, drink, or both, for a period of time. An absolute fast is normally defined as abstinence from all food and liquid for a defined period, usually a single day (24 hours), or several days.

You can fast more than just food, you can modify the fast. You can fast for several different things. The whole point of fasting is to get closer to God. To step away from your reliance on a certain food, or object etc and rely on God instead.
 So why not read about it, learn something new and meet some new ladies. 
The first week we did the introduction and it was a good little preview of what was to come. We discussed where we think some of our problem areas might by. What the bible talks about with excess. That's a great thing about the bible ladies and gents. There's always something new to learn. So by the second week {yesterday} we would dive in head first. 

First week is food.
At first I didn't realize we were actually going to do this fasting. I thought it would be a casual thing. 
Then I didn't realize we were all going to fast on all subjects together.
Now I am completely aware. 
We are all in this together. 

We each chose different foods that we wanted to be without. Some did coffee some did fast food. We all decided to do this for a week. 

The hubby {yes he's jumping on this fasting bandwagon} and I chose desserts. Well I chose dessert really. He probably has more self control than I do when it comes to ...well everything really. 
But he's going along with me on this one. Just to get our feet wet. Because I have a feeling this is going to get really hard by the end of this fasting journey. I mean come on I have a designated pinterest board just for desserts with almost 300 pins!!! No joke! It's a problem. Feel free to follow my board if desserts is not your drug of choice. I would hate to be a stumbling block for you. Just for myself apparently.

DAY 1:

So I heard from some the first day is the hardest. Some say the 3rd and 4th day is the hardest. 
Well, so far it's been okay. {as the food network magically is on in the background} How did that even happen? I don't even watch the food network. Like EVER!
I did hide all of my sweets to the back of the fridge though. {I don't have that many} I've distracted myself pretty well from it actually. But I've also had a decent amount of sleep, not running around doing errands and don't have cranky kids today testing my patience. I guess that's really when I tend to go for the chocolate. I mean I honestly do think that's how moms survive in general. With a substantial amount of chocolate. And of course now that I'm writing about it the craving is starting to sneak in a bit. 

The whole point is not to deprive yourself. But more about a little reminder, a little alarm clock to pray when that craving hits. Pray about what you are fasting about. Whether its about a country and their poverty, orphans. Praying about a medical problem. Or praying about a life choice.....where do I go next kind of thing. I guess that's what's great about fasting. It can be so simple yet so incredibly hard. It has the ability to break open your heart like a caramel filled cadbury egg. OMG there I go ! Stop me now!!!

Please follow along with me on this crazy journey that I've embarked on. Join in if you are super brave and even if you aren't. Please leave comments of encouragement {not of recipes and definitely not pictures of sweets..PLEASE} Let me know if you are doing this 7 experiment too!

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

CopyCat Tuesday {Pinterest Fashion}


I think it's been long enough since we had a fashion post right?
I've had some serious cabin fever lately, or mommy fever. Whatever you want to call it. When you are tired of wearing nursing tanks and leggings every single day. Where my hair is hardly ever done and my I don't even really remember my face with makeup on. How do you wear mascara again? Not to mention the massive amounts of layers and stuff I have whenever I go out is just downright claustrophobic! I don't know if you had heard. New England has broken some serious snow records this last month. It has kept me inside for quite some time now. So I was left with only one option. Move around some furniture and start taking some pictures inside. Unless you all wanted to see what kind of outfits I could make out of snow. Hmmmmmm interesting idea. I think I'll pass though!
Found this outfit on pinterest awhile back.  So, I thought I would get back into some fashion with using some pinspiration.

I also had a special guest who wanted to model with me.......maybe not. He is a natural though.